Several people recently have asked me about how to stretch their ass to allow for more play so I thought I’d give some advice on what I’ve done so far. Obviously cis men get a very different experience from ass play than cis women but I think there’s enough overlap that I can share my stretching expertise.
When I met my Master I hadn’t had anal sex for about ten years and struggled to get a finger in my ass at all (although enjoyed it) so he immediately embraced the challenge to stretch til I could take a cock.
It didn’t take as long as I expected. He was able to fuck my ass within about three months which pleased both of us. He got to use plugs as much as possible in that time to get used to the sensation of something in my ass and to stretch me out.
I had a bit of difficulty to begin with the the plug he suggested first. Although the jiggle balls in it felt amazing, I couldn’t walk at all without the plug slipping out and I found the base hurt after wearing it for more than a hour or so.
I was determined to fill his order of wearing a plug overnight so I went onto Lovehoney and did some research about different sizes and shapes of plugs and ordered a selection. They often do offers on anal toys and have a 365 day return policy that allows you to really try stuff out.
I was drawn to curved plugs. Mainly designed to hit the prostate on men, I find them more comfortable for sitting and walking as a not very tall woman. I shied away from bigger bases to start with and then discovered that for me finger loops and T bars are more wearable for long periods of time too.
I also found that if there’s any reason you might need to take the plug out (and put it back in) when you’re out and about, glass or stainless steel are the best materials to use. They are easy to clean, discreet to put in a bag or pocket and unlike silicone don’t pick up odours or fluff.
I started off with my plug when I was doing something else that distracted me. I did a lot of housework in fact. Then I built up to wearing it 30 to 60 minutes a day longer each time and then wore it overnight. I went from being intensely aware of it to forgetting I had it in there quite quickly.
Not rushing and finding the right plugs for me were key to stretching my ass and taught me to be able to come just through anal. I’m a little out of practise though, maybe I need my own advice…